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- Defining Success
Everyone will tell you to fake it until you make it.
Few will admit how often they feel the need to fake it once they’ve made it.
Take Monica, a former client who pulled herself out of poverty. At times, her family was homeless, and her childhood was marked by instability and fear.
Now a lawyer and COO of a major organization, there is no doubt she’s overcome tremendous odds to “make it” in the traditional sense. She does important work, she is respected by her peers, and has the ability to financially support her family. But it has all come at a price.
A price, she realized, she never consciously made the decision to pay.
She works long hours, she pushes past her fears and insecurities, and she’s done what she felt was right for her organization, even when it wasn’t popular.
And it often leaves her utterly exhausted.
She doesn’t have time for friends. And she certainly doesn’t have time to find a man, settle down, and start the family she’s always dreamed of. In fact, the further up the corporate ladder she’s climbed, the more isolated and lonely she’s felt.
When I asked her to describe one person who epitomized success to her, this is what she told me:
What became clear is that although she’d come a long way, there was still a huge gap between the kind of life she desired and the one she was living.
If you’re going to work your butt off, take a little risk, and put your talents to use, shouldn’t you at least get the life you actually wanted in return?
I say absolutely.
Unfortunately, most have no idea how.