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Annabel Candy

 

I recently met Annabel Candy, author of the Get In the Hot Spot blog, over at the Brazen Careerist forums.  Annabel recently mentioned she tries to do something that scares her every day and I wanted to find out if it was really true and how she does it. 

JG: How did you come to start this practice? 

AC: I’m not sure! I slipped into it somehow, I think because what scares me most in life is dying without doing everything I want to do. So to avoid that I push myself to out of my comfort zone daily even if it’s a small thing. If life’s too safe we get bored and become boring. If we haven’t taken a risk for a while it becomes harder so it’s good to keep in practice. 

JG: Do you really do something scary every day? 

AC: I try to. It’s easy to get out of your comfort zone. Here are a few of the regular things I do that scare me. 

  1. Go surfing  – I usually end up with bruises and there’s the irrational fear of sharks.
  2. Talk to someone new – I’m shy.
  3. Make a cold call to build up business for my web design company – I’m great at web design but not so good at sales.
  4. Write personal stuff on my blog – I’m scared people will judge me.
  5. Attend a business networking group where I have to talk to a group of people – I’m not confident about public speaking.
  6. Send an article to the editor of a big blog or newspaper and see if they’ll publish it – we all fear rejection but it’s par for the course when you’re a writer.
  7. Power walk down the beach – people must think I look so silly pumping my arms like that.
  8. Go to a dance class – I just started this term. I haven’t studied dance for about 33 years and I’m at least 10 years older than the other girls.

JG: What’s the best result that come out of doing this? 

AC: Good question! I’ve taken a lot of risks in life. Big ones like moving to Zimbabwe, Laos or Panama even though I didn’t know anyone or speak the langauge. But we can’t take big risks like that everyday and it’s good to keep taking small risks so we don’t get too scared to do anything. I’ve certainly had failures but I’m just glad I tried. The biggest failure for me would be to wish I’d had a go at something I never dared to try. 

The best result I’ve had from doing something scary would giving birth to my second baby naturally at home even though I nearly died after my first son was delivered by a caesarian section. My first son was big (10lb 12oz) but my second son was even bigger (11lbs) so it was quite a result. The feeling of trying something you were scared of and succeeding is unbeatable. 

JG: Does it get easier to do something scary with repetition?  How do you prime yourself to do it? 

AC: Yes, it does get easier. It still scares me but I do it anyway. I think my confidence is growing daily because I refuse to be ruled by fear and insecurity. I recomend it to anyone. After all, what have you got to lose? 

For more infomation and inspiration to help you live your dream, read Annabel Candy’s self-improvement articles at her blog, Get In the Hot Spot. You can subscribe to the RSS feed or choose email updates to stay posted on the latest articles. 

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18 Responses to Do Something Scary: An Interview With Annabel Candy

  1. Thanks asking me about this. I really do recommend it. I went to my dance class last night so I’m a bit tired and achey this morning but it’s fun doing things that scare you. You learn to laugh at your mistakes instead of worrying about the possibility of making them. Thanks again for organising this Jen, it’s great to connect with you:)

    • Thank you, Annabel! It’s good advice and I’m still thinking about how to implement it. You are an inspiration for sure! (though I may not take up dancing any time soon…LOL)

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    • March 24, 2010 at 7:41 pm
    • Heather
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    In the past have given fear a lot of power in my life. I havealso given the emotional processing of fear a great deal of thought and I know that fear can hold you back but it’s a waste because what scares you might never happen. Fear is primal and is easily triggered deep down in our primal brains, so it’s helpful advice to try to override it at every opportunity. Confidence soars as you rewire your brain. I have been wanting to go back to dancing for a long time now as well Annabel. I do worry that I’ll be the oldest there and slip over and embarass myself :) Think of all the enjoyment I am missing out on. Thanks for a great interview Jen and Annabel!

    • Heather,
      Yes, it’s amazing the power fear has over our thinking, and I find it disturbing the extent the media plays into that these days. I love the idea of “rewiring” your brain–that is, in fact, exactly what needs to be done. Any advice on how? I try to limit my exposure to upsetting media, and of course indulge in a lot of rational thought (e.g. that person is not a kidnapper, just friendly and clueless). I also think some of it is genetic. My father was fear prone too. No excuse, but I think good to know it’s not just you!

      Thanks for stopping by!
      Jen

  2. Thanks for swinging by and commmenting. Give it a go Heather! We aren’t getting any younger but doing stuff that scares us and streches us emotionally and physically will help us stay younger longer:) PS.Your profile pic is gorgeous.

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    • March 29, 2010 at 9:06 am
    • PiterJankovich
    • Said...

    My name is Piter Jankovich. oOnly want to tell, that your blog is really cool
    And want to ask you: is this blog your hobby?
    P.S. Sorry for my bad english

    • Piter,

      Thanks so much for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment. You made my day! Where are you from?

      This blog is indeed my hobby. I’m a biochemist at present, but hope to transition to writing full time this summer. It’s been my life-long dream and I am just now getting the courage to take it beyond hobby status. But still the blog will just be a part of that dream–there are so many genres I am anxious to explore!

      Nice to “meet” you and I hope you’ll stop by again.

      Jen

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  6. Fabulous! Not only has social media brought you two together (and me as well, I suppose) but, in so doing, you have made something extraordinary happen here. The message of daring to challenge ourselves to do more and be more because living is what we’re here to do is inspiring. Yours is not a message of vicarious living but active, action packed, and exhilarating living! Thanks for the inspiration and the reminder to go for it!

    • I know, isn’t she a wonder? I think about the message of this post all the time. I surely don’t challenge myself to do something scary everyday, but at least Annabel got me thinking about it. Baby steps to a more vibrant life, I say!

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    • August 6, 2010 at 7:45 am
    • Barbara
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    Love this interview! It’s funny that I have little problem taking on the big stuff, and chicken out on the little stuff. I’m afraid of trying some foods I’m not familiar with, but will tackle selling my house without a definite plan for where we’ll move!
    Annabel you’re very brave and smart to push the envelope every day. I’m going to try it.
    Jen, I love your blog!

    • Barbara,
      I’m very similar. Talk to a stranger? No way! But I’m more than willing to delay my retirement 18 years to pursue my writing dreams. There probably should be a post about this phenom. Thanks!!

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