In January I made the bold statement that I was committing to living without goals.
Us overachievers can be so melodramatic.
There were a number of warning signs that led me to re-evaluate the goals in my life:
- I was anxious, even when (or especially when) things were going well
- No matter how much success I enjoyed, I still didn’t feel I’d done enough
- I felt so overwhelmed at times it was like I was suffocating
Two months into the experiment, I can say that when I’m successful at letting go of my goals, my stress goes way down. For example, previously I might have set a goal of working out 3 times a week–a goal I’d rarely live up and when I didn’t, resulted in a lot of internal scolding.
Now, I have an “area of focus” on fitness. That means I work out when I want to and I make sure it’s fun (no more forcing myself to do “what’s good for me”). I experimented with different kinds of exercise and ultimately found a Pilates class in my neighborhood that I love. I go once or twice a week, plus walking with a group of friends once a week.
So at least in that area of my life, giving up goals leaves me feeling great and reduces stress. If I don’t work out for a week due to projects, that’s ok. My fitness now flexes more seamlessly with my priorities because there’s no pass/fail criteria.
However, there was one big challenge I underestimated in going goal free: dealing with your previous work commitments.
I’ve found that, much like physical clutter, your previous aspirations and commitments carry a lot of emotional baggage that make them tough to get rid of. In this short video, I talk about three strategies for cleaning out your mental closet (without losing your mind).
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What do you think? What’s the best way to de-clutter your commitments?
Editor’s note: I’m experimenting with adding more video on Everyday Bright and would love your feedback. Like these videos? Prefer just text? Think I need to hire a videographer to make these worthwhile? Let me know!