Mental Tricks to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed

Mental Tricks to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed

I was reading a list of goals from a client and nearly laughed out loud. I work with a lot of overachievers, but I thought this was perhaps the most ridiculously overambitious list yet.

But I didn’t want to say that directly. I wanted him to figure that out for himself. So I told him to add up how many hours he thought each task would take to accomplish and report back to me.

He estimated it would take him approximately 15 hours a day over the next 90 days to accomplish the goals he’d described. And he was completely unfazed at the prospect. In fact, it would be difficult to describe his emotional state as anything other than eager.

This was an interesting response considering that when I asked him to choose one word to describe his 2015, he replied, “Overwhelmed.”

This is a man who loves his work. He also happens to be exceptionally good at it. When I asked him what he would do with more free time if he had it, he had a hard time coming up with a response. The idea of relaxing on a beach or getting lost in a book wasn’t unappealing, but those activities had a hard time competing with his passion-based business.

That interaction got me to thinking. Is there a meaningful difference between overwhelmed and busy? And is it possible that the trick to stop feeling overwhelmed had nothing to do with how busy you are?  (more…)

The Hope Effect: Giving Orphans (And Yourself) a Brighter Future

The Hope Effect: Giving Orphans (And Yourself) a Brighter Future

Everyone deserves a chance.

A chance at health and happiness, love and community. A chance at deeply meaningful work that you can be proud of. A chance to start over, at any age or circumstance, and pursue your curiosity and passion wherever they may take you.

These are some of the guiding principles in my business and I’ve worked hard to extend those chances to as many people as possible. But it’s not just about chances, is it?

It’s about having the capacity—the mindset, confidence, and resilience—to recognize and capitalize on life’s opportunities. To avoid the feelings of helplessness when you suffer setbacks. To believe in your ability to navigate the unknown or uncertain.

These things aren’t easy for any of us, but few factors are as important as the environment you experienced during your formative years.

That’s why I’ve decided to team up with my friend Joshua Becker in support of his nonprofit, The Hope Effect, which aims to bring a better life to orphans around the world.

8 million children live in orphanages. But there is growing research that the traditional, institutional care that most orphans receive may do long-term harm. When children do not receive adequate personal interaction within a loving environment, development is stunted and learning abilities are delayed or lost. Many kids age out only to face a future of crime, prostitution, or trafficking.

The Hope Effect aims to change that by rethinking the orphanage design. Family-style homes for two caretakers and eight children in a campus-like setting provide opportunity for each child to flourish and thrive. Access to health, dental, and social care is provided while each child is prepared for the future through education, responsibility, support and the structure that parents were designed to provide.

I’m asking the Everyday Bright community to help me raise $2000 to extend the chance at a better life to orphans in Honduras. If just 100 people donated $20 (the same amount many of us spend on silly gifts for the office holiday party), we’d hit the goal.

But as a fellow big-hearted citizen of the world, I know there are many, many worthwhile causes asking for your support, so I wanted to find a way to make this a bigger win-win for everyone involved. Here’s what I’m proposing: (more…)

What Holds You Back Can Propel You Forward: An Interview With Tim Lawrence

What Holds You Back Can Propel You Forward: An Interview With Tim Lawrence

There’s something that’s holding you back, isn’t there?

Maybe your parents weren’t kind or supportive, and you’re still trying to prove you’re worthy of their affection. Maybe you were bullied or abused, and a part of you still believes the taunts. Maybe you made some poor decisions in life and you worry you always will.

You don’t dwell on it much. After all, we all have our hurts and you’re just trying to move on. But the more you try to bury the pain and shame, the heavier the load you have to carry becomes.

Tim Lawrence understands your pain. He’s been experiencing it most of his life.

Tim was diagnosed with cerebral palsy, essentially a massive stroke, at birth and nearly died. As is common for those with the condition, he also suffers from epilepsy. Given up for adoption, he went through years of intensive therapy followed by occasional and massive setbacks.

Tim’s life could have easily been a typical tough luck story–a guy who just never catches a break. Instead, he is living one of the most inspiring and authentic lives I know. (more…)

5 Unexpected Challenges of Financial Freedom

5 Unexpected Challenges of Financial Freedom

Editor’s note: The following is a guest post by Tara Schiller.

Although most of us aren’t anywhere close to financial freedom, I think you’ll find these suggestions make sense no matter how much money you currently have in the bank.
We all want to be financially free, right?

I mean, who wants to be told what to do, where to go, when to wake up, and who to be? In fact, we value freedom so much it’s considered an essential human need.

So how could there be a downside to something as wonderful as being free?

Well these 5 challenges may surprise you.

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The Best Way to Get Perspective on Your Problems

The Best Way to Get Perspective on Your Problems

I thought I would break.

I felt overwhelmed. Over my head. I thought the pressure to deliver on my own promises would engulf me.

I don’t even remember what I was working on at the time. All I wanted to do was curl up in bed until everyone forgot about me and what I said I’d do. Which would never work, because the only person who was actually tapping her foot and demanding more results was me.

That night, I attended a party where we were all instructed to write notes of encouragement to our future selves. The party organizer would return our letters in six months time.

Frankly, it all felt a little hokey to me, but I played along.

Here’s what I wrote: (more…)