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A couple of weeks ago, I got caught telling a whopper set of lies.
I was waiting for my daughter to get out of school, when another mum asked, “How are you doing?”
“Good,” I said breathlessly, “but crazy busy!”
(Lie #1: I certainly was busy, but I was not well at all. My back pain had returned in spades and the stress was so bad I’d started getting recurrent cold sores in my mouth.)
“I’ve got a launch coming up, I created a new product, and I’m wrapping up the book chapter I’ve been writing on contract. And of course the hubby’s been out of town a lot, so doing most of the child care. But,” I sighed, “I just have to get through April and things will slow down.”
My friend cocked her head and asked, “Haven’t you been saying that since October?”
Lie #2, that I thought everything would “slow down next month,” was the worst of all, because at least part of me believed it. Indeed, I’d been engaged in a vocational sprint for more than six months, where the finish line always remained just a few steps ahead of me.
In my last update on my no goals experiment, I shared 3 strategies for de-cluttering your commitments. I’m here to say I tried juggling and failed. It was a good experiment, but at least for me, I couldn’t make it work.
I decided the only real solution was to remove all work commitments and start completely over.
For many of my clients, the thought of starting over is one of their biggest fears. There were certainly days I just wanted to curl up and hide in my room. I was so stressed about the how: how to break ties without burning bridges, how to throttle back without losing momentum, and how to focus on the work I love without burning out.
In this post, I’ll show you how I’m addressing all three of those concerns and how you might do the same.