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- Defining Success
The choices seem small and insignificant, but they plague you.
Should you take a long walk outside or answer your email? Should you watch a movie or work on the book idea you’ve been talking about for years? And when are you going to finally enroll in that Spanish immersion class?
Every day you feel pulled in different directions, torn between the things you want to do and the things you feel you have to. And that tension, quite frankly, is wearing you out.
Instead of making a decision, night after night you allow yourself succumb to the things you think will make you feel less stressed. You watch TV. You splurge on burgers and a milkshake. You skim your email, read celebrity gossip, or play video games until it’s way past your bedtime.
Just before you drift off to sleep, you realize: I’m never going to get that day back. And I wasted it.
String enough days like that together, and you start feeling helplessness. You feel sick inside, like you’ve failed a final exam.
Leo Babauta, one of my favorite writers and thinkers, recently encouraged people to imagine how they would spend their time if they started with a blank slate. That’s a good question, but I find there’s often another problem you have to solve first.
You have to get to root of the expectations that are draining you.