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It’s gutting, isn’t it?

You’ve finally found that thing that makes you feel giddy and alive—maybe it’s a job, or a place, or a person you think you could spend the rest of your life with.

And then, bang. It’s over.

Maybe you were fired. Maybe your positioned is being moved to Newark. Maybe they just weren’t that into you. Whatever the reason, someone else has decided the good times are over and there’s nothing you can do about it.

When you’re in the middle of that pain, you can’t help but wonder: what if that was as good as it gets?

Will I have to settle for something that will always feel less than?

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Editor’s Note: Last year, I gave a free webinar on core values for my subscribers. One person who took me up on that offer was Wallace Montgomery.

Brave enough to allow the group to give a critique, I gave him some free coaching afterwards to refine the values he came up with. To my surprise, on his third draft, he listed Overachieving as one of his core values. I asked him to share his thinking behind this decision, and how he came to see overachieving as such a valuable part of his personality. I thought his answer was particularly insightful and I share it with you below.

For an overachiever, there are few better environments than grade school.

While I don’t miss sitting in a classroom all day, I do yearn for a time when concrete goals were laid in front of me – and the surest way to accomplish them was hard work. It was an all-you-can eat buffet, and studying to get straight A’s was just the first helping. You were encouraged to load your plate with after-school activities. And the more you could consume, the more impressed everyone appeared to be.

Needless to say, the post-college world shocked me.

Among the countless lessons learned over the years: hard work in and of itself doesn’t guarantee anything. To truly get better at something worthwhile, you generally have to fail at it again and again (after a lifetime of living in fear of the F!). And being an overachiever can be a serious liability – mostly because it’s a hard thing to shut off.

All my life I’d sprinted, unrelentingly, mercilessly, towards a goal. I would achieve it and keep going, barely slowing down, on to the next. That worked just fine in school, even in some jobs, but not so well in longer-term pursuits like changing careers.

My career change has been a long, exciting, frightening, unpredictable journey.

And as an overachiever, it’s been, at times, crushing. At the end of each day, what have I done? Some thinking? Self-reflection? Research? That’s not enough!

I started riding myself hard. I wanted results, and I knew they weren’t coming any time soon. The criticism became so frequent and harsh it endangered my ability to achieve anything.

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After an intense four months, I’m finally ready to reveal two new products specifically designed for overachievers who are tired of chasing success and are ready to create a life of purpose and meaning.

Overachiever Guide tileIf you look like you have everything on the outside, but struggle with doubt and dissatisfaction on the inside, it means you don’t really know what success means to you.

The Overachiever’s Guide to Meaningful Success is the most comprehensive e-course on the market to help you redefine success and start living it–today.

This 4-week course will teach you:

  • A practical strategy for defining your statement of success, and knowing how to use it
  • How to make better decisions, faster. Say goodbye to the agony of analysis paralysis with a clear picture of what you want
  • No more compare and despair: have greater confidence in the direction you’re heading
  • How to prioritize your steps to success without being influenced by someone else’s dream

Of course, knowing what you want isn’t the same as knowing how to get it.

Luminaries tileThe Luminaries Club is an exclusive mastermind for overachievers who want to change the world and still succeed at life.

With an investment of just a few hours a month, you get a group that offers a combination of brainstorming, peer accountability, and support to help you achieve your version of success, whatever that may be. Members help each other to set focused goals and accomplish them. They serve as catalysts for each other’s growth, devil’s advocates, and supportive friends who are similarly brave enough to pursue an unconventional definition of success.

This is a group where you can safely peel off the mask of perfectionism, without worrying what your colleagues might think, and get real help on creating the life/career you want.

But overachievers don’t need help

I get it. I used to think I could learn everything and do everything myself too. But here’s the thing:

Trying to generate all the motivation, innovation, and drive to achieve your dreams all by yourself is exhausting.